In Sympathy

Today I heard that Terraannnnce (aka Mr. Baker) died.  Yes, I use that bad word ‘died’, instead of passed away.  Maybe it’s because I’m a little pissed about it, so why sugar coat it.  It plain sucks that people who love each other have to live without each other.  And it makes me think about all the people in this world that are being crappy to the ones they love – how dare you?  You’ve still got each other here in this physical world, when others aren’t given the choice but to let go of someone.  How selfish of you to misuse such a gift.  But, I’ll move on cause that’s another post all together…

Everyone grieves differently, but I suspect that most people go through similar ups and downs during the process when someone who has been sick moves on.  You’re pissed one minute and relieved in the next.  You’re sad one day then happy the next.  You’re depressed for time then hopefully motivated by this person’s life well-lived. 

I write this to The Baker Family to let them know they are not alone at this time.  Yes, indeed the world is moving on while you might feel stuck.  The cards, the calls and the visits may slow down at some point.  But, be comforted in knowing that people who have lost someone themselves or people that are you truest friends, will always keep you in their thoughts.  Wishing you peace as you find your own way through this part of life. 

And that’s what it is…a part of life.  It may not seem like the natural order of things when someone young dies, someone with more years left to live, more things left they wanted to do.  But this life is filled with opposites, things that hopefully create balance and teach us along the way –young and old, happy and sad, bitter and sweet, strong and weak – and we can’t have one without the other. 

I wish that as you and your young ones grow older that you are happy for the memories you created with your father and husband, that you are not bitter for the sad loss, but cherish the sweetness of your family bonds and in times of weakness are able to find the strength to find the goodness in another day.

I'm attaching some tropical flowers for you.  You're thought of in Costa Rica today.

Pura Vida,

Karen